Oh Josie, You've Done it Again.

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Can I get a guys perspective?
2005/11/08,18:29

SO

I realize almost every single one of my posts has to do at least in part with boys, or rather, a particular set of certain boys.
I guess thats just how you know I'm a teenager.

ONTO THE BOYS

So John left for ashland Sunday morning, he gets back tonight.
That means I can call him tonight before bed like I usually do, and we can talk.

Actually, I just remembered, his home phone is shut off for the time being, and all I can call him on is his moms cell. Who knows how long she will let him talk on that.

So I asked John if our relatinship meant anything to him at all, or if it was just physical for him. He told me he had absolutely no feelings for me, and that he wouldn't be upset if I got a boyfriend or something.

ouch.

Okay, so now I need a guys perspective on this ok?

Why does he get so jelouse when I flirt with other guys?
If it's just sex he wants, how come he stays around when he's not getting it from me? I'm not exactly the most skinny, pretty girl in the whole school, and he could basically get anyone of them that he wanted.
So maybe its the chase he likes, maybe the fact that i'm not giving it to him, makes it like a challenge. But like I said, those other girls can play "hard to get" too.

So a logical explanation for all of this would be that he's lieing. Maybe he really does have feelings for me right? but that can't be true either, becasue if he has feelings for me, then why doesn't he want to date me, why can't he make a commitment?

So I figure, I need a guys perspective on all this. If you got any answers to any of these questions, let me know.

Alright, untill later.

~ Josie ~


comments

Comment Icon Thanks.

wow, well, hes still one of my best friends, and we have talked since this blog, and I don't think he has moved on yet, but I have. I decided that i don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me.

Thanks so much

Posted by: Josie at 2005/11/10, 12:21
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hi there josie,

Guys don't speak in "subtleties". As you've probably noticed when we speak to friends and family most of us tell it how it is. When he says he just wants you physically he probably means it.

That doesn't mean you should give him what he wants. You should make it clear that a relationship for you is more than just physical and if he doesn't love you, he should move on.

Since I only have a son (5 yo), my perspective is a little bit different... If I had a daughter I'd constantly be worried about her being lechered by young teenage boys and tell her not to get married till after college.

One thing you'll realize when you're about 10 years older (28, where I am) is that you don't truly "grow up" (well in some ways never) until about 25. That's when I think your self identity really comes into it's own, and you really begin to know what you want from life.

Posted by: mbuel76 at 2005/11/09, 16:03
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